Mindset Reset: Letting Go of Limiting Beliefs and Self-Sabotage

Marlene Le Roux
Jun 23
4 min read

Updated: Jul 3

Have you ever found yourself setting a goal with the best of intentions—only to feel like something invisible is holding you back?

Maybe it’s the voice in your head whispering, “Who are you to do that?”

Or the moment you start gaining momentum, a wave of self-doubt crashes in, and suddenly you’re back at square one.

If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone.

And just because I’m a coach doesn’t mean I don’t have cravings, feel flat, or have days when I pull the covers back over my head after snoozing the alarm multiple times. Getting yourself healthy—physically, mentally, emotionally—isn’t about being perfect. It takes practice, patience, and consistency.

The most important thing? Just get started.

This week, we’re diving into something that can quietly dictate every part of your life—from your health to your happiness—without you even realizing it: your mindset.

What Is a Mindset Reset?

A mindset reset is exactly what it sounds like—intentionally pausing to assess the mental patterns, stories, and beliefs you’ve been operating from, and deciding whether they’re still serving you.

Think of your mindset like the software running in the background of your life. If it’s outdated, full of bugs, or programmed with limitations… you’re going to hit the same walls, no matter how much motivation or willpower you muster.

A mindset reset doesn’t mean pretending to be positive all the time. It’s about awareness. It’s about choosing to let go of the junk and rewriting the script you’re living by.

Step 1: Spot the Sabotage

The first step in changing your mindset is learning to spot the saboteur. And let me tell you—she can be sneaky.

Here are a few common forms of self-sabotage:

Procrastination: You want to improve your health, but you “just need to get through this week first.”
All-or-Nothing Thinking: One slip-up means you’re a total failure. (Spoiler alert: you’re not.)
Perfectionism: You don’t start unless you can do it perfectly.
Negative Self-Talk: “I’ve always been this way.” “It’s too late for me.” “I’m just not the type of person who sticks with things.”

These thoughts feel true—but they’re not facts. They’re often old beliefs rooted in past experiences, fear of failure, or someone else’s voice that you unknowingly internalised.

Step 2: Challenge the Belief

Once you’ve identified a limiting belief, ask: Is this actually true?

Let’s say the thought is:

“I’m not disciplined enough to stick to a wellness routine.”

Start poking holes in it:

Have there been times in your life where you were consistent?
What helped you stay on track then?
Whose voice does that sound like—yours, or maybe a parent, teacher, or ex?

Write it down. Question it. And then replace it with something more empowering.

Try this instead:

“I’m learning how to show up for myself in new ways, and I’m allowed to take it one step at a time.”

Step 3: Shift From Sabotage to Self-Support

We often wait until things are “bad enough” to finally change. But what if we started treating ourselves with the same patience, support, and encouragement we give our friends?

A mindset reset means turning your inner critic into an inner coach.

Try these self-support swaps:

“I’ll never be able to do this” ➡ “I’m open to learning and improving.”
“I messed up again” ➡ “I had a hard moment, but I can keep going.”
“I can’t trust myself” ➡ “I’m rebuilding trust with myself one decision at a time.”

This isn’t toxic positivity—it’s mental retraining.

Step 4: Take Imperfect Action

You don’t have to wait until you feel ready. You just have to take one small action that aligns with the version of you that’s already thriving.

That might look like:

Going for a 10-minute walk even though you’re not motivated
Prepping one healthy meal instead of overhauling your entire diet
Saying “no” to something that drains you
Booking that coaching session even though you’re nervous

Every time you follow through—especially when it’s uncomfortable—you’re teaching your brain a new way to respond.

And that? That’s powerful.

Step 5: Anchor It With Routine

Mindset isn’t a one-and-done switch—it’s a practice.

Just like brushing your teeth, you need a routine that keeps your thoughts clean.

Try starting your day with a short mindset ritual:

Write down one limiting belief and flip it to an empowering one
Say 3 affirmations out loud
Take 3 deep breaths and ask: What would the best version of me choose today?

Small habits create big shifts—especially when you do them consistently.

Real Talk: You’re Not Broken

Here’s what I want you to know:

You are not lazy. You are not a failure. You are not stuck.

You’re just running an old mindset that no longer fits the person you’re becoming.

And the beautiful thing? You can change it.

It starts with awareness. It continues with practice.

And it’s supported when you surround yourself with people who get it.

If you’re ready to hit reset on the beliefs holding you back, I’m here to help.

Whether it’s through coaching, one of my programs, or joining the free wellness challenge this month—there’s a space for you to start fresh, feel supported, and finally thrive.